Transforming Your Empathic Sensitivity Into a Powerful Tool of Service and Change.
How Sara Harnessed Her Empathic Sensitivity
Sara was empathically sensitive. She could feel the emotions of everyone around her and even the emotions of her ancestors. Her problem was that she thought everything she felt was her own. She would feel the infidelity of a neighbor and think her husband was unfaithful. She would walk into a store and feel the anxiety of a sales person and think that she was anxious. She would feel the anger of her child and become angry.
Sara came here to www.empath.help. She read the articles and completed a basic course in emotional reflecting.
A month later, Sara was still empathically sensitive, but how things had changed. She clearly distinguished her personal emotions from the emotions of others. She felt the infidelity of her neighbor and knew it to be the neighbor’s experience. When she experience another person’s anxiety, she reflected the feelings back to that person. She remained calm and centered. When anxious person relaxed and expressed gratitude to Sara, Sara smiled to herself. She just listened another person into existence.
Her marriage was stronger and she and her husband were growing closer than ever. Her children were calming down and beginning to learn how to self-reflect their emotions. They even reflected Sara’s emotions.
Sara experienced peace and compassion in ways she could not imagine. All of this happened because she took the time to learn some basic skills to become emotionally competent.
Who Am I To Teach Empathic Sensitivity Tools?
My name is Doug Noll. I am a lawyer-turned peacemaker, speaker, trainer, and best-selling author. Unlike other “experts,” I have melded hard science with skills that work.
Why?
Imagine training inmates serving life sentences in maximum-security prisons how to be peacemakers. That’s what I have done over the past decade.
When my colleague Laurel Kaufer and I started the Prison of Peace project, we knew we had to teach skills that de-escalated angry emotions the first time, every time, without fail. Lives were at stake. The prisons were the testing grounds for the tools you will learn here.
Over the years, I have learned more and perfected these skills. I observed that nearly a third of my workshop attendees identified as being empathically or emotionally sensitive. They experienced affective empathy. Once I taught them how to use what they were experiencing, the chaos in their lives disappeared.
My wife, the profound sound healer Aleya Dao, works with emotionally sensitive beings every day. She brings decades of experience and wisdom to www.empath.help. If you resonate with a deeper spiritual approach to your empathic sensitivity, check out her offerings under the Resources menu tab.
You can read about my awards and international recognition elsewhere. You are here to solve one of the biggest problems in your life: Your emotional sensitivity.
I Was the Opposite of Empathically Sensitive
I did not come to this work easily or gracefully. I was born left-handed, nearly blind, partially deaf, and crippled with two club feet. I struggled growing up. I was socially in-adept. I was not a natural athlete. And, I was pretty smart. All kill switches for getting the girls.
My parents worried that I would not survive if I wasn’t tough. Not only did I endure years of emotional invalidation, no one understood the physical challenges I endured. I became emotionally shut-down. I was the opposite of you, an emotionally sensitive person.
I worked hard. I graduated from an Ivy League college, went to law school, and was a successful trial lawyer for 22 years. Through a series of events that I will not bore you with, I left the practice of law to become a peacemaker. That led me to neuroscience and the deep study of human conflict and emotions. I learned how emotions are created by our brains, and I learned how to read emotional data fields. My practical work stands on the shoulders of giants in neuroscience. I bring this knowledge and experience to you via www.empath.help.
A Place To Gather Empathic Tools
This place is about learning skills based on knowledge and is based on some powerful values. Go to the Manifesto page and read them. You can even click on some of the more powerful values to tweet them out to your Twitter world. This is a great way to show solidarity with our tribe.
Here are a few of my blogs that may interest you.
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Under the Resources tab, you can find other tools, including Aleya’s Cups of Consciousness daily mediations. Aleya creates these meditations specifically for emotionally sensitive people. Unlike generic meditation sites, Aleya focuses on aligning your energy fields ot manage your empathic sensitivity.
You will find a link to my best-selling book, De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. De-Escalate will explain the basics of emotional reflection (also known as affect labeling). This is the core tool needed to transform your life.
Finally, you will find links to some online courses Aleya and I have created specifically for you.
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