You wonder, as an empath, “How do I become a super empath?” In this article, we will reveal the secrets empaths have used to transform into super empaths.
What’s the Difference Between a Super Empath and an Empath
The differences between an empath and a super empath are marked. In a nutshell, super empaths are disciplined, educated beings who have honed their empathic sensitivities into awesome skills.
Unlike many of their empath cousins, super empaths lead satisfying, abundant lives of service. Their relationships are loving and respectful. Their lifestyles are healthy and clean. However, the transformation from empath to super empath takes time, effort, and discipline.
Super empaths have learned to spend energy on their self-improvement rather than spend the same energy wallowing around in the misery of other people’s emotions and pain. They made a conscious choice to change and were determined to grow, even if growth meant some discomfort.
Here are the typical traits of an empath:
Traits of an Empath
- Closeness and intimacy can overwhelm you
- You have good intuition
- You take comfort in Nature
- You don’t do well in crowded places
- You have a hard time not caring
- People tend to tell you their problems
- You have a high sensitivity to sounds, smells, or sensations
- You need time to recharge
- You don’t like conflict
- You often feel like you don’t fit in
- You tend to isolate
- You have a hard time setting boundaries
- You see the world in unique ways
- You take on other peoples’ emotions as your own
- Sometimes you experience sudden, overwhelming emotions when you’re in public
- The “vibe” of a room matters to you — a lot
- You understand where people are coming from
- People turn to you for advice
- Tragic or violent events on TV can completely incapacitate you
- You can’t contain your love of pets, animals, or babies
- You might feel people’s physical illnesses too — not just their emotions
- You can become overwhelmed in intimate relationships
- You’re a walking lie detector
- You can’t understand why any leader wouldn’t put their teams first
- You have a calming effect on other people — and the power to heal them
- You cannot see someone in pain without wanting to help
Traits of a Super Empath
The super empath’s traits have taken the negative aspects of the empath’s traits and turned them into assets.
Discerns Emotions and Feelings
The super empath can discern emotions. She has studied the science of emotions and has a basic understanding of the neuroscience of affect, emotions, and empathy. Armed with this knowledge, she can discern clearly her experiences from moment to moment.
Can Name What She Is Experiencing With Granularity
Most empaths are alexithymic. This means they cannot identify or name with precision the emotions and feelings they are experiencing. No wonder they suffer from anxiety and confusion. Because they cannot name emotions, they experience turmoil and chaos. They retreat to protect themselves from the onslaught.
The super empath can name her emotional experiences with granularity. This means that she can associate specific words of emotion with specific feelings she is experiencing. She has a strong working vocabulary to draw upon for describing how she is feeling in the moment.
Immediately Returns Emotions Not Belonging To Her Back To the Rightful Owner
Because she has developed discernment and emotional granularity, the super empath can easily separate her personal emotions from those of others around her. She returns any emotion that does not belong to her to its rightful owner using specific protocols she learned in her training. (Check out The Empowered Empath Course, starting September 6, 2020, for an example of this type of training.)
Is Rarely Overwhelmed By Others’ Emotions, Even Though She Feels Them
Because she has cultivated, through intense, disciplined practice, discernment, emotional labeling, and the protocols for returning emotions, the super empath is rarely overwhelmed by other people’s emotions.
Values Objective Truth
Super empaths value objective truth. Sometimes, they are called Zenith Empaths, Super-empaths want to know reality as it is, not some subjective belief that sounds true. That being said, they may be attuned to subtle energies that the physical sciences cannot yet detect or measure. Those energies are real, and super empaths know that to be accurate,
Like most empaths, super empaths can immediately spot liars. Instead of becoming upset, super empaths recognize the person as untrustworthy and unaligned with the truth. Liars are simply dismissed as non-entities unworthy of time or attention.
Is An Insatiable Learner
Super empaths are insatiable learners. They are curious. Knowledge is like a refreshing drink on a hot day, and they love to delve into subjects that pique their interest. Many super empaths become scholars, teachers, and inventors.
Lives To Serve Others In A Co-Creative Way
Many empaths identify themselves as healers. Super empaths strive to serve others in many capacities. They do not enter into co-dependent relationships out of a misguided attempt to fix broken people. Instead, they use their skills to serve humanity with passion and grace.
Has Flexible Beliefs
Super empaths recognize that as truth changes, so must beliefs change. They are not locked into rigid ideologies and do not embrace the latest and greatest conspiracy theory or new age fad. Their opinions change as they change, grounded in the values of truth and service to others.
Admits Mistakes, Makes Amends And Moves On
Super empaths have strong self-identities that allow them to admit their mistakes, apologize, and move on with life. Denying responsibility is not part of who they are. They are quick to make amends and learn from their experiences.
Holds Clear, Firm Boundaries
Super empaths hold clear, firm boundaries and do not allow those boundaries to be crossed. You will not find any victims in the super empath group. If you pass a super empath’s border, watch out. You are likely to be given one warning. Do it again, and your relationship is finished. (The Awakened Empath: 6 Paths to Powerful Enlightenment)
Will Help And Heal When Appropriate; Otherwise Can Let The Impulse Pass
Like normal empaths, super empaths have an urge to help and heal. The difference is that they will not succumb to their caring impulse unless they decide that it is the right thing to do for the other person. They have the discipline and self-control to let their healing motivation go.
Commands And Demands Respect And Personal Accountability Of Herself And From Others
Super empaths do not tolerate a lack of personal accountability from themselves or others. They respect themselves and command respect from others by their presence. They carry gravitas such that you will know when they enter a room.
Strives For Kindness In Turmoil
Super empaths, like most empaths, do not like conflict. However, they recognize conflict is part of being human, and they try to be as kind as possible. They are natural peacemakers and, when specifically trained in mediation and peacemaking skills, are highly effective calming others down.
Self-Soothes Through Diet, Exercise, Isolation, And Quiet
Many empaths self-soothe their anxiety and overwhelm through addictive or unhealthy habits. Super empaths soothe through diet, exercise, isolation, and quiet. They avoid sugar, excessive alcohol, drugs, TV, movies, or other escapes that many people use to deal with stress.
How Do I Become a Super Empath
What the Super Empath Knows that Empaths Do Not
The super empath knows that discipline is the secret to life. Discipline does not mean sacrifice, but this control requires some hard work. Once the habits of discipline are mastered, the super empath can enjoy an abundant, joyous life of service.
Training The Super Empath
Super empaths are not born; they are developed. There are six essential areas of training necessary to become a super empath.
Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is the ability to know one’s thoughts and feelings, acknowledge them, name them, and accept them. Self-awareness is the first step of control over empathic sensitivity.
Emotional Competency
Emotional competency describes the knowledge and skills of mastering human emotions. Emotional competency includes understanding affect, emotions, and somatic feelings, grounded in neuroscience and human physiology. It includes the ability to recognize and label one’s own emotions and the emotions of others. It consists of the ability to experience complex layers of intense emotions without shutting down or running from them. Sitting in temporary emotional discomfort is a hallmark of a super empath.
Discernment
Super empaths are trained to discern what they are experiencing. They learn to distinguish between their emotions and the emotions of other people.
Self-Control
Super empaths learn emotional self-control. They do not burst into tears inexplicably. They do not lash out in reactive anger. They are not slaves to every feeling that washes through them. They do not ignore their empathic sensations; they learn to control their reactions to those sensations.
Boundaries
Super empaths learn to establish clear, firm boundaries. This skill is acquired thorugh the courage to say “No” regardless of the consequences. When they break through their barrier of fear of rejection, of not seeming helpful, and not being accepted, they understand the power of boundaries. This power sets them free.
Self-Care
Super empaths work hard on self-care. This requires forming new habits and beliefs that replace unhealthy lifestyles. The typical super empath will work on the following:
Contemplative Practice
Meditation, the right kind of prayer, mindfulness, and silence are all ways super empaths maintain inner stillness against the onslaught of the emotions and pains of others.
Right Exercise
Super empaths frequently exercise, often engaging in outdoor activities that keep them away from others. Hiking, bicycling, jogging, and swimming are all common forms of exercise.
Right Environment
Super empaths live in places that are right for them. If living in a big city is not healthy, the super empath will move somewhere else, forsaking big money in a career to a simpler life. Like other empaths, they will seek time in natural, uncrowded spaces. They are not attracted to a busy, super-stimulated life typified in urban environments.
Right Diet
Super empaths recognize that foods are Nature’s big pharma for humans. Their diet is critical, but they don’t go in for the latest craze or food fad. They eat clean, organic food they prepare for themselves and their families. They recognize the adage that they are what they eat.
Right People
Super empaths surround themselves with the right people. Whether at work or at play, super empaths are selective about who they allow around them. They are not afraid to make short term career sacrifices to find meaningful employment. They will not tolerate mean, arrogant, unintelligent superiors. They have a few close friends and many simpatico acquaintances.
Right Work
Super empaths learn to be lifestyle-oriented. You will not find a super empath commuting two hours in traffic to work a 9 hour day. They tend to work close to home and prefer self-employment over the “security” of a paycheck. Because they are super learners, disciplined, and patient, they do not mind the risks of self-employment.
Right Relationship
Super empaths find fulfilling relationships with emotionally competent and secure partners. They are patient in their search, knowing that the right relationship is out there. They are happier in no relationship than in a wrong relationship.
The Journey from Empath to Super Empath
After reading this far, you may be thinking that becoming a super empath requires you to become a superwoman. Not true. The journey might be hard, but not impossible. The real question is whether, as an ordinary empath, you want to continue to suffer in anxiety, overwhelm, or confusion.
Change is always hard. However, the wealth of the super empath could be alluring enough to motivate you to resist the inertia of your current life. Becoming a super empath is worth the effort.
Check out our courses to help you on your journey. The first live course starts on September 6, 2020. Check out the details here.
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